What I’ve Learned During My First Year Of Post-Grad Life

I graduated college May 2014, so my one year mark of living in the adult world has come and gone. And to be honest, it’s been filled with plenty of ups and downs. I’ve arguably learned more during this past year than in college…almost. This year has been spent learning about finances, friendships, and careers, and so much more.

I call this the year of “it’s okay.” Meaning, I’ve had to remind myself, and some of my friends, that it’s okay to not have everything figured out and to be totally overwhelmed by this new season of life.

Here is my list of “It’s Okay’s” and tidbits of what I’ve learned thus far.

1. It’s okay to lose friendships

Some friends are easy to hang onto year after year, and others take a little bit of work. Don’t try to hold onto to every friend you’ve made over the years. Growing up is inevitable and some people just aren’t in the same place they were before. It’s okay to kindly let go of friendships that are not adding substance to your life. In high school, friendships were often based on quality, not quality. As you get older, you learn that quality is most important. Find out who you want to share your life with.

2. It’s okay to get rejected 

Applying for “grown up” jobs isn’t always quite as easy as applying for jobs in high school or college. Applying to multiple jobs means getting multiple rejections, or even no response at all. This may dent your confidence, but for every rejection, there is an acceptance out there waiting for you. Take the time to perfect your resume and build connections by networking.

2. It’s okay to not understand finances

Money is confusing, at least to this non-math girl. Am I paying too much for insurance? What exactly am I being taxed for? How do I budget myself? These are questions I’ve asked myself multiple times this year. And honestly, I’m still not sure of the answer. If you don’t know the answer, try looking to the two P’s: Pinterest and parents. Granted your parents are likely more informative, Pinterest also has links to great blogs and websites that may help you navigate through your financial woes. 

3. It’s okay to be an independent woman

Is it just me or is everyone getting engaged right now? Or at least in serious or semi-serious relationships. It can sometimes be a downer to go to yet another wedding date-less. And although being alone or the 3rd wheel can be rough, embrace this time of singleness. Who has time for men when you’re working on being a Girl Boss? Make these post-grad years all about you, and when the time is right, someone will jump in and run along side you.

4. It’s okay to move back with your parents

Moving back in with your parents after graduating can seem like you’re taking 5 steps back. But if you’re not financially comfortable to move out on your own, this is your best option. Moving as an adult is not as easy as moving out of your childhood home and going to college. You have to find a place to live, near your job, in a safe area, and within your budget. Sometimes this is just not possible. If you are able to move back home, I say, do it!

There are days when it can be tough to live with my parents and sometimes it feels like I’m back in high school, but in the long-run, I’m confident it will make a lasting impact. Since I don’t have to pay rent, I get to save money to move almost anywhere. Not to mention, the kitchen is usually stocked with food and goodies. What could be better? Remember, you have the rest of your life to live on your own.

5. It’s okay to not be where you want 

Growing up takes time. Don’t expect the pieces of your life to fall into place after graduation. I LOVE the quote that says, “Don’t compare your beginning to someone’s middle.” I’m always looking at Facebook and Instagram and it’s usually filled with my old high school or college peers embarking on a fun adventure or reaching career goals. It makes me feel like I’m 5 steps behind, which can get pretty discouraging.

Remember, social media is not an accurate portrayal of anyone’s life. Don’t base where you think you should be on where everyone else is. Everyone’s path is their own. Create your own unique path, set some goals, and what is meant to be, will be.

6. It’s okay to have a job that sucks

As wonderful as it would be to jump right in and work at an amazing company or become a manager or lead, it likely won’t happen right after graduation. It’s okay to be the person who goes on coffee runs for the company or stuffs envelopes all day. But with that being said, it’s also okay to quit. If a job is holding you back, move on and find something better. Be realistic with your expectations, but also remember to keep taking steps forward. Sometimes you have to start at the very bottom in order to work your way up. Be willing to work hard because success does not come overnight.

7. It’s okay to go on an adventure

Explore a new country, state, or even city. Get out and see what life is like in different places. Try not to get stuck in a little bubble and try exploring new perspectives and sights. Go on a hike in a new city, drive to a nearby state, or even go on a road trip with no specific destination. Go on a mini vacation once in a while, you deserve it. Maybe plan a trip to visit an old roommate or college friend!

Remember, we’re all just winging it. Regardless of age, none of us have life figured out. Even our parents and mentors are learning every day. In time, you will end up right where you’re supposed to be. Don’t be afraid to dive into something new and take risks!

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve gotten?

LOVING LATELY...

 White Candle Holder || Votive Candle Holders || Two-Piece Bathing Suit || "But First, Coffee" Tee || Brown Sandals || Essie Nail Polishes || Brown Sparkly Sandals || Bow Crossbody Bag

As we all know, I LOVE Target. But then again, who doesn't!? My latest trip inspired this post because there were just so many things I wanted to slip into my cart. But even though my heart says yes, my wallet usually says no.

I am super excited for the Lilly Pulitzer line to come out on April 19th! (Check out the look book here.) My mom and I were definitely lusting over all the colorful products. I haven't really liked Targets past few collabs, but I think this one is going to be a winner in my book! Those candle holders & nail polishes...YES.

Also, I am obsessed with "coffee" graphic tees. Seriously, it's a problem. I guess I just like to make my love of coffee known to the world.

I love hearing about fun Target finds. What is your recent Target fave? Or what's on your wish list?

Denim vs. The Washing Machine

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I'll admit, I don't wash my jeans every time I wear them. I have a couple favorite pairs that I'll wear 2-3 times a week. When you invest in a great pair of perfectly fitting jeans, you don't want them to fade and stretch in the washing machine.

Even the CEO of Levi Strauss has said that he hasn't washed his favorite pair of jeans in over a year! A WHOLE year! Okay, I don't think I could last an entire year without washing my favorite H&M jeans. But as gross as this idea may sound, bacteria can't actually live on your jeans.

A college student wore his jeans for 15 months without washing them to find out if this can actually be hazardous to your health. The answer: No!  The amount of bacteria found after a couple wears, compared to the bacteria levels after 15 months, were found to be nearly identical. I understand the desire to keep your favorite jeans in mint condition, but going an entire year without washing may be a little excessive. I don't know about you, but considering of often I spill my white mocha, my jeans have to get washed quite a bit.

So how often should you wash your denim and ensure they stay good as new?

1. Wash your jeans approximately every 4-5 wears.

There isn't a fancy formula as to how often you should wash your jeans. It's up to your own discretion. If you're more active and tend to sweat (or spill everything, like me), you may want to consider washing your jeans more frequently, if not after every wear. But assuming you keep up with general personal hygiene, you can probably get away with washing every few wears.

Now you may be wondering, what if they start to smell a little funky? Stick them in the freezer! Yup, you read that right. Simply seal them in a freezer bag, leave them overnight, and by morning, they'll feel and smell fresh and clean! Keep in mind, this won't actually clean them, but they'll feel a whole lot better.

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2. How to Wash:

In order to keep the longevity of your jeans, first turn your jeans inside-out. Turning them inside-out will keep their color from fading. Next, wash with cold water, and avoid putting them in the dryer. The dryer can shrink your denim and affect the overall shape. Instead, hang dry for a few hours or put them on while they're a little damp so that they can conform to your body as they dry for a better fit. 

3. Dark Denim:

If you have favorite dark wash denim, you don't want to lose that fabulous color in the wash. To keep your dark jeans looking...well, dark, try washing them with vinegar. Why vinegar? Vinegar seals in the dye and prevents it from bleeding or fading. Simply add 1/2-1 cup of vinegar to your cold wash cycle and turn your jeans inside-out. Voila! 

Alternatively, you can take a note from Levi's CEO and never wash them! Don't worry, I won't judge you.

Keep in mind, jeans really do conform to your body shape, and the more you wash them, the more this shape becomes lost. Follow this washing method to keep your jeans looking good as new!

Where do you go to buy your favorite denim?